How often are you disappointed at not achieving your goals?
Like many, I have often disappointed myself by not exactly achieving what I had set out to do. The feeling of “my life is not turning out how I planned” is such a debilitating, ever present force that does nothing but drag us down even further.
This was true for me until some time ago I heard a podcast featuring Dr Gabor Maté. Dr. Maté is a renowned addiction expert who calls for a compassionate approach toward addiction, whether in ourselves or in others.
Maté is a fascinating individual who shares many insightful stories and experiences. Of all the things he said in this particular interview this one stuck with me “Set an intent, not an expectation”
Wow, it has changed my life.
Old expectation; Success means building this blog into a huge endeavour in itself and have thousands of followers in the next 12 months.
New intent; Success means regularly sharing insights with the intent that it may reach a small tribe of passionate followers. The intent is to matter enough that people will miss the blog if I stopped writing it. The intent is that an insight helps even one follower succeed, change, improve.
Any of these will make me a happy blogger.
Take a moment, change an expectation into an intent and feel the weight release.