“you are the average of the 5 people you associate with most”
Tim Ferriss, author of many books including the Four Hour Work Week, often reminds himself of this and his millions of podcast listeners.
The first time I heard him suggest this was a revelation to me. I hadn’t up to that point considered the enormous affect people close to me really had.
Now I think of this idea in seperate areas of my life; work, friends and even family.
- How do I feel when I am with these people?
- Do I love or dread to be with them?
- Am I lifted by their presence?
If I feel my own energy is down, I review the company I am keeping and what their energy has been. Tim is right (for me anyway) I am the average of the people I associate with.
Personally I want to hang with people who lift me, who inspire me, who I can learn from, who I can grow with.
Be careful though, sometimes you might be the one in the group who is bringing the average down. Check in with yourself on occasion and ask if you are contributing or taking.
If you find yourself hanging with people that take your energy more than they give, it might be time to move on.